Married!!!

WOW!! Did this really happen?? I'm married! It has been such a whirlwind of events and the wedding itself is a bit of a blur. It was an amazing weekend and the wedding was gorgeous thanks to the designers at Avant - Garde in Phoenix. As photos come in, I will begin to post them.

It definitely feels different being married, as I have always been single. It's a little wierd....I cannot quite explain it. Wierd in a good way!!

In the meantime, I have been asked to do something interesting. I met this journalist from Care2.com and she and I started talking about the dating game and getting into a healthy relationship. The next thing I knew I was offering to do a conference call with anyone who is interested on the steps that I took to get out of the dating mess and into a healthy relationship.

I cannot tell you how passionate I am about this and how much I want share what I learned. I hope it will be helpful.

The conference call is completely FREE and open to everyone. It will take place tomorrow, Wednesday, March 24th at 4pm PST and 7 pm EST. We will probably talk for about 90 minutes. Simply call the follow number and log in the access code followed by the "#" sign.

Here is the number: The number is 270-400-2000, access code 365294#.

I hope you can all make it!!

with Love until the next blog....
Liz...aka Mrs. Donahue

3 DAYS!!! and more on relationships!

WOW!! Is it really only three days away?? Time sure does fly sometimes!!

I am so many things right now....nervous, excited, teary, quiet, scared...just to name a few. I'm working so hard on staying in the present. At times it works, other times, not so successful.

There is a part of me that feels slightly intimidated about being the center of attention at the wedding. For those of you who know me, you are probably falling off your chairs right now rolling with laughter. In other words, I am not shy and thrive on being on stage at our events and love talking to an audience. But this is different. This somehow feels very intimate and personal. Does that make sense?

I am sure this feeling will pass as I step into my gown and focus on Jeff, and our love and connection.

So, relationships. In the last post I talked about Harville Hendrix and the "imago" work. I love the "aha" moment when you really GET what negative traits are similar about your past loves and your major caretakers. It is very helpful in choosing a partner.

I met Jeff on match.com. My sister actually found him for me. I think this is extremely helpful to have a friend or sister look for you. Why? Because they are more objective and will not choose someone that connects with that unhealthy chemistry piece that you might choose.

Another major piece I did was with Dr. Joe Dispenza's work. This was HUGE!!! If you have never heard of Dr. Joe, don't walk, but RUN to his website and buy his book now!! (no, I'm not on commission). You must read his book, Evolve Your Brain to really understand the exercise. His work truly transformed a big piece of my men and relationship stuff. And the beauty of this exercise is that it can work on ANY issue, not just men. www.DrJoeDispenza.com

Here is the exercise, BUT once again, buy the book as it will solidify this for you. I did this exercise every day.

1. Write down all the thoughts that do not serve you (ie: I will never find a partner, I'm too fat, etc.)

2. Write down all the feelings that do not serve you that stem from the negative thoughts that you have (ie: I feel down, depressed,..etc.)

3. Write down all the actions you take based on the negative feelings that you have (ie: I isolate, eat sugar, ..etc.)

4. THEN....write down all the thoughts that DO serve you (ie: I deserve to have a loving partner, I'm lovely, kind, honest, beautiful..etc.)

5. Write down all the feelings you have when you think these positive thoughts (ie: I feel centered, strong, confident)

6. Write down all the actions you take based on the positive feelings you have (ie: I exercise, eat well, take better care of myself, I interact with men in a healthy, centered way)

7. THEN...and this is really important. Sit and visualize yourself in the most challenging situation that you think you could encounter based on the issue you have been writing about. Then very clearly see yourself having one of the positive thoughts and feeling good and taking right action. Do that until you have a strong, centered feeling in your body about the thing you are working on.

8. During your day, when you have a negative thought, immediately switch it to one of the positive ones that you have been working on. Watch what happens to the issue!!

The exercise sounds long, but it would take me about 20 - 30 minutes every morning. I was so determined to change my thinking about men and relationships that I just kept at it until I felt a change.

I noticed a shift in the way I started to interact with men and how I handled myself on dates, it was very different. Much more centered, clear and myself.

You have to tailor the exercise to whatever it is you want to change your brain and mind about.

If anyone reading this does this exercise, let me know how it goes for you!!

That's it for now!!!

Sending Love to whoever is reading!